Choosing the Right Music for Your Wedding
The one thing you've learned from planning your wedding? All the details that go into it!'
The music is a big part of the day's festivities, so finding the right band or DJ takes time and effort.
Probably the best way to find the right one are referrals from friends or loved ones who have planned music for their own weddings. Or, maybe you have enjoyed the music selection of a DJ or band at a wedding you've attended yourself.
Even so, you'll want to "audition" them again, or at least meet them beforehand to discuss the day's soundtrack to the most important party you will ever likely plan.
Once the choice is made, there are still a lot of decisions to be made, like what song will be played for your first dance as husband and wife? What song would you like to for a father-daughter or mother-son dance?
Just up ahead, check out expert help from a professional with wedding music tips and advice, and who shares his own experience as a musician who has provided the musical background for many weddings.
Composing a Wedding
A typical wedding can be divided into 3 main sections and these are:
About half of the weddings I come across have the ceremony in a church so this means that if they do require me to provide live music, it will be during the drinks before the meal and the wedding breakfast. Everyone's requirements are different so don't be afraid to discuss any special requirements with whoever you are hiring. As far as the choice of specific pieces of music is concerned - the only part of the wedding that you really have to think about is the wedding ceremony.
The church ceremony.
I'm not going to go into any detail with the choice of music for a church wedding there are so many religious denominations which all have their differences. A church wedding is easier from the music point of view in that you very seldom have to provide someone to perform your choice of music - unlike the civil ceremony. However, you won't have a problem with a church service - you'll be able to discuss everything to the finest detail with the relevant cleric and the resident organist.
One thing that has become popular over recent years is the
civil wedding ceremony. I think that this is the reason that
more and more musicians are booked for weddings each year.
At one time you had to go to a registry office to have a civil
ceremony. Things have changed as so many hotels and reception halls have been able to apply for a licence to hold marriage
ceremonies on their own premises.
advantage to a civil wedding in a hotel is that everything
to do with the marriage can be carried out at the same place.
That means less travelling and less hassle for everyone. Although
you will have to sort out the music for a civil ceremony yourself,
there is a bonus in that if you choose live music for the
service, the musicians can provide music for the entire celebration.
Your specific choice of
music should be discussed with the musicians well before the event
and they should be able to provide you with some ideas. If you
don't want to pick each individual piece of music for the proceedings
then just give whoever is involved an idea of the style of music
you would like or perhaps a favorite composer.
For a civil
ceremony you can have any music you want as long as neither the
title or the lyric have any reference to religion. Most couples
prefer to have classical wedding music for the ceremony and
then have something lighter for the rest of the day.
Popular First Dance Songs
Last My Love Has Come Along Can't Take My Eyes
Off Of You I Finally Found Someone Endless
Love I Can't Help Falling In Love With You
Because You Loved Me Our Love Is Here To Stay
It Had To Be You Don't Know Much One Moment
The next section is the entrance of the bride and traditionally
this is carried out to Verdi's Bridal March. Although most
people do choose this piece, you can have any music you like.
The one thing you must consider when looking an alternative is
that it doesn't take long for the bride to walk down the aisle.
I think that it is wiser to stick to the Bridal March.
This is where everyone leaves the place of the wedding ceremony and traditionally this was always carried out to Mendelssohn's Wedding March. In this day and age wedding couples seem to request everything but the Wedding March. Anything seems to be appropriate for the recession and there isn't a problem with the length of the music. As soon as the last person has gone, the musician or musicians finish.
That's it! The ceremony is over and everyone can start the celebration.
After the ceremony everyone
usually starts making a lot of noise. They have so much to say because
they've had to keep so quiet throughout all the serious bit. I said
earlier that you needn't concern yourself about the music after
the ceremony, but it is a good idea to discuss the style of music
you are looking for and maybe give your musicians a couple of requests.
Most people will opt for disco, or some sort of dance music, at this point, but there are alternatives.
In a sense a marriage is
the merging of two families and for most of the guests there will
be a large number of people at the wedding who are complete strangers.
I think that the wedding day should be geared to making things
easy for everyone to get to know each other unfortunately
disco doesn't always achieve this and as they are getting more
expensive, live music is rapidly becoming a viable option.
Popular Father-Daughter Songs
Little Girl Just The Way You Are The Way
You Look Tonight Isn't She Lovely I'll Remember
Unforgettable Through The Years Can
You Feel The Love Tonight In My Life In
My Daughter's Eyes
Very often a couple will fail to realise that quite a large percentage of the guests are going to be elderly and probably won't be into the latest music trends. Your choice of music should cater to this group, as well as the younger people at the wedding reception. Also, the term disco seems to be synonymous with high volume levels. This is something else that you ought to take into consideration when you make your final choice.
Whichever way you go, you should be aware that you won't please everyone. If it is a big wedding you'll probably have to hire the services of a disco or a function band, but make sure that whatever type of music you choose will cover most tastes.
If the wedding is a small affair you will be able to be a bit more adventurous as there won't be the same pressure to have the dance floor packed. You will be able to try something a bit more subtle maybe something a little bit more specialised.
Popular Mother - Son Songs
Raise Me Up You've Got a Friend Greatest
Love of All What a Wonderful World Wind Beneath
My Wings Unforgettable Through The Years
As Time Goes By I Wish You Love Have I Told You Lately That I Love
A soul band is a great idea
but don't expect them to be able to play every request. Let
them stick to what they do best. If it is a small wedding there
is a better chance of knowing your guests more intimately. You
will probaly be able to choose something more to their taste.
There is a lot of scope in what you choose. Here are a few ideas:
soul band, jazz quartet, steel band, salsa, ceilidh, reggae, etc.
I suppose to sum up this last section I would say that that the obvious choice of disco isn't necessarily the best. Think about the numerous alternatives and maybe you'll make your wedding a little bit different from the norm and more memorable in the process.
About The Author...
Eugene Portman (https://eugeneportman.com/)