Saying Goodbye to Diapers
Parent Tested Potty Training Tips
Like learning to walk and talk, potty training is a major childhood developmental milestone for
parents and babies. Unlike the other steps, toilet training
can be a source of stress for everyone concerned.
I'm a big kid now!
Do Other Parents Start Potty Training? There is no set age for starting
to replace diapers with big kid underwear. Like most tasks, it depends on when
baby is ready.
parents may get an early start to accommodate a child care setting while others
wait a bit to make sure that they don't force the issue. One online source polled
parents and found out that 32% began potty training when their kids were 18 months
old and another 38% waited until baby turned two. At 2 1/2 another 26% faced the
issue and only about 5% waited until age 3.
The Big Deal?
is the subject of toilet training so nerve wracking? Like most new parent issues,
there are too many people with conflicting advice... and everyone warns of the
emotional damage of getting it wrong ... damage to fragile self esteem, setting up control issues
in your relationship with your child, making you feel like a failure as a parent
and your baby feeling like a failure in general. Oh, my!
reality is that potty training can be a fun an rewarding experience for the whole
family. The less worried and nervous the parents are, the more baby can learn
to control the physical demands that potty training brings. Accept that you can't
wave a magic wand and have your baby use the potty just as you couldn't control
when sitting, walking and talking started. Baby will be glad to learn to use the
potty as soon as it is possible. Going potty is just as much fun as learning to
walk up and down stairs or hold a crayon to color... and just as dependent on
your baby's unique development schedule.
babies, just like some adults, will have a set time of the day when they urinate
or have a bowel movement. But, just as many adults are not on any set schedule,
many toddlers will go only when they are ready. The time of day or nap schedule
may not be a trigger for a visit to the potty for these children.
baby starts to walk, the wonderful regular meal schedule that worked so well for
your infant goes out the window. Your little independent toddler is so busy exploring
the world from the new heights just discovered and practicing those difficult
walking skills that there is no time to sit down and eat a regular meal.
Finger foods get munched on throughout the day as the wanderer goes about the
task of mapping the world of your home. There are new toys to discover and so
many things to learn about... eating meals, napping and going to the potty are
just parental interruptions in a busy life. By three or four, the world is beginning
to make sense and the urgency of finding out what everything does calms down a
bit. It's much easier to get back to routines and make the potty visit part of
the morning and evening ritual.
Schedules and Daytime Accidents
babies will begin to stay dry at night on their own. The soaking diaper you'll
find them in is the result of an early morning urination. They may even wait until
fully awake before wetting. If you find that your baby's diaper is dry in the
morning, starting with that natural development may be the best way to get the
potty routine going.
morning make a quick trip to the potty and wait until the magic happens. You can
provide happy entertainment to pass the time by singing going to the potty songs
and telling going to the potty stories. If nothing happens after a minute or so,
leave the potty with a cheerful explanation of what you were doing. After at least
several days, your little one should begin to get the general idea and may even
ask to go potty instead of wetting a diaper. Success!
AM triumph won't necessarily translate into a toilet trained child. Busy kids
have a difficult time knowing when the urge to go will hit. If it happens when
deeply engrossed in a favorite movie, TV show or plaything, stopping to go and
visit the potty is not even a thought. After years of diapers, it's just easier
to keep on playing and let the pee-pee flow right where you are. Sure your pants
will get wet, but that's nothing new. Parent's have to be patiently persistent.
When an accident happens, just make a delayed visit to the potty, not expecting
any action but just to reinforce the training, then chance the wet pants for dry
ones. Try taking a fun potty break every couple of hours just for practice. You'll
probably head off most accidents that way. Be proud and praise the successes and
don't make a big deal about the mishaps. It may take days, weeks or even years
which may seem like decades to impatient parents for the accidents
to stop, but eventually they will.
Well Meaning Advice
listen to anyone who says your child should or should not be out of diapers unless
it's your pediatrician. Making your baby meet the expectations of others is not
healthy for the baby or for your relationship with your child. Every toddler is
different and proceeds on a specific time table just right for that little person.
Other babies may be doing things at a different pace, but who cares! They are
not as wonderful, talented or artistic as your own precious child, who will be
ready to stop the accidents as soon as the time is right. You can't rush the process
without making it harder for everyone.
baby goes potty, it is a remarkable achievement and should be given the accolades
it deserves. Hand clapping and dancing have been known to occur as excited parents
watch their budding genius in action. Learning to "go potty" is one
of the biggest jobs your baby has ever faced and success should be a cause for
celebration every time it happens.
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