Children's Birthday Party Planning
When - And When Not - to have a Big Party
1: Invite only family members and close friends only because this birthday
is more for the parents than for the child. At age 1, a child doesn't understand
the concept of "Birthday Party." He or she is getting a lot of attention---which
is all a 1-year-old wants or understands anyway. You should not go overboard on
presents because too much could scare or confuse a child. You should consider
getting specialty items such as a plate that says "First Birthday," a 1-year-old
candle, and possible a table cover that everyone could sign with fabric paint
to have as keepsakes that can someday be shown (or given to) your grown child.
Age 2: 2-years-olds should have one or two playmates over for
a small Birthday Play Day. Again I suggest you keep a birthday plate and other
keepsakes for your 2-year-old.
3: 3-year-olds should have three to four playmates over, and at this age you
might have try a birthday game such as "Who can stack the blocks the highest?"
I do not recommend having a clown or playing any games that require a blindfold
over a child's eyes such key due to the fact either can scare children at this
age. Remember your child has just turned 3, and the playmates are around that
age. They are still not able to understand fully structured games very well. They
only know if they do something good or better than other children, everyone will
give them attention. Again I suggest you collect keepsakes.
At 4, children should now be ready for a "real" party. I suggest four or five
playmates. 4-year-olds are ready now for party decorations, but I suggest you
do less and save your money for the big number "5" birthday (or buy decorations
that you can put away and use again). Games such as Musical Chairs, and carrying
a hard boiled egg on a spoon to the finish line without dropping it relay race
can be appropriate, but remember that games will be played and finished much sooner
than you think. Consider having a few of your child's favorite videos on hand.
Even if the kids have seen them 100 times, they will enjoy them. After an hour
or so, you will probably need a break and the children might be cranky. A movie
they are all spellbound by will be a great way to relax the kids and you. You
might want to consider spreading a couple of blankets on the floor and have some
pillows handy for sleepyheads!
5: 5-year-olds should have a big party, but remind them
that this is because they are the big "5," and either starting
school or just in school, and having a "big" party will not
happen every year. Explain to them that big parties are only
for special birthdays such as 5 because they have started or
are starting school, 10 because that is the first double-digit
number, and of course 16 ("Sweet 16" for girls and "Driving
Age" for boys). This will save you money in the long run. On
the fifth birthday, I suggest you first decide if you want to
do it yourself, rent a building or park area but still do it
yourself, or call local businesses (like McDonalds)
to see what party-planning packages they offer. I personally
suggest renting a park area if weather permits because the kids
will be just as happy playing on park equipment as they would
if you spent a ton of money on a professionally planned party.
Have several inexpensive disposable cameras on hand and let
your Birthday Boy or Girl take pictures of his or her first
Great games for 5-year-olds whether inside or outside are:
Hitting a Piñata that is full of candy.
2. Relay races, which can be held
in a garage, carport, or park.
3. Water balloon fights if weather permits
(and you have advised the parents that the children are likely to get wet).
4. Dancing to music and "freezing" when the music is stopped to see who looks
the silliest (this is a great game and everyone should win a party favor).
5. Pin the tail on the donkey (consider a game that uses Velcro instead of pins).
You can also do face painting and movie time. As with the 4-year-olds, you
need to over plan for games and activities and a movie is a great back up (or
a much-needed rest time). Another helpful hint is to take enough large plastic
trash bags to cover your kitchen floor and lightly throw all colors of paint on
them. Allow for adequate drying time before the party. Then you can use these
bags to cover your kitchen floor before cake time to catch cake droppings and
milk or soda spills (which WILL happen).
6-9:Birthdays can be simple overnight parties (slumber
parties for girls and "all nighters" for boys) filled with
popcorn, junk food, movies, and video games. As long as you
let the kids stay up all night and sleep in half the next day,
this type of party can still be "cool"---what kid doesn't love
the idea of staying up all night (even if they don't make it
all night). If it is summer time, think about letting them sleep
outside in a tent or on a screened-in porch (just be sure to
let the parents know exactly where their children will be sleeping
and you should plan to check in on them a few times during the
Age 10: This should be done about the same as age 5 in terms of it being
a "special age" (and reminding your child that "big parties" like this will not
be done every year. Ten is a good age to consider renting a facility such as:
1. Pool parties:
most local pools offer after-hour times when you can rent the
pool for birthday parties.
2. Roller- or ice-skating parties.
arcades or pizza parlors often have special birthday packages.
4. A day at the zoo for your child and their friends.
Hint: To save money, check with the place where you plan to hold the party to
see if you can decorate, bring in the cake, and other party favors instead of
buying the supplies from them.
Ages 11-15 do the same as ages 6-9 with a simple overnight party.
At 16, if they even agree to let you have a "party," then consider yourself
lucky. If they do, then you need to let the teenager decide what kind of party
it should be. Remember kids at that age are very "into" who is popular and who
is not. Don't push your child into inviting everyone you might think they should
(because they might be afraid of being made fun of for having a party at home
with their parents.) They know who to they can invite and who they can't without
fear of peer pressure. My best suggestion for this age is either a pizza party
at home or at a pizza parlor or a pool party, depending on the teenager's interest.
party that you give should be "Fun" for your child. Expect that your only reward
will be the memories you create for yourself. If you happen to get a hug and a
kiss from a very happy child at the end of the day, then it will be a bonus to