Solo on Valentine's Day
Advice for Singles
stores are decorated in candy hearts, flowers and bears. Every
TV or radio commercial reminds you that it’s time to remember
your sweetheart on this special day for lovers. Your feelings
range from sadness, to revulsion to anger. What’s a single person
to do on Valentine's Day?
suggestions are designed to both answer that question and to help
you have a good day after all, while working to make it your last
the day by planning an activity that is meaningful and enjoyable
Go to a day spa for “the works”
Plan an intimate dinner for 3 or 4
Go ice-skating or to the movies with a fun friend
Go out to dinner and a movie with a group of other singles
Focus on what you enjoy and make a conscious decision about
how to mark the day
Un-Valentine's Day parties are very popular and can be a lot of silly fun. You can attend one or throw one of your
design a relationship-building plan:
Let the holiday
provide you with the motivation to take risks, try new ideas and
gain the knowledge that will enable you to find and create a lasting,
at the computer or with pen and paper in hand and get your plan
making a list of resources that can be used to help you meet
These can include: on-line dating sites, singles groups, volunteer
activities, or participation in sports or other activities that
you enjoy.Decide when and how often you will participate in
any activity you have chosen.
budget for both time and available funds for this purpose.
homework and research each resource so the information will
be available when you need it.
resolutions you made, or make some if you haven’t yet.
what is really important to you. Remind yourself that implementing
and sticking to these will help ensure that you are really ready
for that special relationship. Being the kind of person you want
to be with is the first step.
concrete goals. For example stick with a healthy diet, exercise
three times a week, plan one organizational task per week, etc.
Taking care of yourself and living well will optimize your chances
for relationship success. Start today.
Toni Coleman is a licensed therapist and relationship coach in
private practice in McLean, Virginia. She is the author of the
email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands
of subscribers monthly. http://www.consum-mate.com