live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die."
~ Thomas Campbell
the life of the deceased at a funeral service can be a daunting
task for most families.
attention is often drawn to the logistical and financial details
of funeral planning, attention also must be paid to planning
a proper tribute for a deceased friend or family member.
it's a task that takes thoughtful consideration at a time
when most families are at best under great stress, coping
with grief, and short on time.
Creating a memorable funeral service:
there are a multitude of resources around the Web that can
help with choosing the perfect poem or quote, the best funeral
readings, or funeral music and songs to be played at the service.
Finding just the right words for a eulogy can also help bring
solace and comfort to those who gather in honor of the deceased.
How to write a eulogy
a eulogy can vividly recall the life of the deceased in
ways that may be profound, respectful, entertaining, and even
eulogy writing entails collecting information about the deceased's
family life and professional accomplishments. It also helps
to elicit personal stories and family lore that shed light
on the deceased's beneficial impact on the lives of those
readings from scripture, or excerpts from selected funeral
poems or readings, helps bring closure and illuminate a life
"brevity is the soul of wit", it is always advisable
to keep a eulogy concise and on topic with well-chosen facts
and stories that result in a eulogy that is both moving and
music and song suggestions
music is another important part of most services. This may
simply entail playing the deceased's favorite song or song
list or, in Christian services, working with organists and
singers for a more religious musical program to accompany
music's ability to soothe and comfort, a special song played
at a funeral can evoke the special times we have spent with
the person who has died. Carefully chosen, the lyrics of funeral
songs may also help to encapsulate the feelings of those
in attendance better than they themselves can express.
hymns and songs of praise such as "Amazing Grace",
"Abide With Me," "Just a Closer Walk With Thee"
and "Ave Maria" have been some of the most popular
music played at funerals in the past, there are certainly
no hard and fast rules that govern funeral music today.
hits such as "Candle in the Wind", "In the
Arms of an Angel", "In My Life" and "Tears
in Heaven" have also proven enduring funeral favorites.
Country tunes, jazz, blues or gospel songs, classical pieces,
and even movie sound tracks may be appropriate. Whatever the song or genre funeral music should accomplishe either one of two things:
to honor the life of the deceased, or to comfort those who grieve.
Funeral poems, quotes and readings
Distilling the feelings of the bereaved or evoking someone's life into
a few short words is best accomplished by adopting a favorite poem, quote or reading to incorporate into the service.
Often inspirational and uplifting, there are a large number of funeral poems and readings from which to choose that strike just the right note of solace to help the bereaved cope with deep feelings of grief and loss.
More information about how to create a memorable funeral service
around the Web:
around the Web, find sites offering more tips, advice and
helpful resources for honoring the deceased with related funeral
song playlists, poems, quotes and related how to's on honoring
A Book of Comfort -
Suggestions for music for funerals and memorial services,
prayers, poems, and meditations, obituary wording, plus tips
and advice for family and caretakers, related resources.
- A complete guide to funeral readings, prayers poems, songs
and music, including popular video samplers and suggested
playlists for a deceased friend, spouse or child.
and Memorial Poems
- An extensive collection of poems for honoring deceased parents,
grandparents, spouses, babies and children, plus related collections
of funeral prayers, readings and quotes.